Sympathy vs. Empathy: Quiet Power of Presence
In a world of seemingly endless means of social connection, we can often find ourselves standing at the crossroads of two emotional paths: sympathy and empathy. Both are well-intentioned, yet they lead us to two very different destinations: toward and away from one another. Understanding the difference between sympathy and empathy can transform how we connect with others—and with ourselves.
Sympathy: Moving Away
Sympathy is often expressed when we observe another’s pain and feel sorrow or sadness for them. It’s an acknowledgement of suffering; a recognition that someone else is hurting. Yet, sympathy can actually create emotional distance between us. It says, “I feel sorry for you,” but doesn’t necessarily invite us into the experience of the other. Expressing sympathy might sound like:
“That sounds really stressful. I hope it gets easier for you.”
“You’re not the only one feeling this way, it’ll pass.”
“I’m sorry you went through that. That sounds really hard.”
Empathy: Moving Toward
Empathy, on the other hand, is the act of being present with someone in their experience—in their world—with them. It’s not just recognizing their pain, but experiencing it alongside them. Empathy says, “I understand you. I see you. I hear you. And I am here with you.” Expressing empathy can dismantle barriers between self and the other, opening a space for connection, understanding, and safety. This might sound like:
“I can see how much weight you are carrying right now.”
“I can hear how difficult this has been for you.”
“I’m honored you felt safe enough to tell me this. How can I support you?”
Cultivating Empathy in Our Lives
To weave more empathy into the fabric of our daily existence, we must first listen to the other—not just with our ears but with our hearts. Active listening, where we give our full attention without judgment or interruption, allows us to truly hear the other person's experience and walk alongside them in their world.
Our team of trauma-informed clinicians supports healing through relational and somatic practices, rooted in the belief that connection—to body, self, others, and the natural world—restores us. Horses, with their ability to co-regulate and mirror emotional states, are incredible partners in this process.
With tenderness,
Maranda MacDonald, MFT Trainee (she/her) & The Walk Intuit Team
Trauma-Informed. Intuitively Attuned. Clinically Grounded.
